Part One: Navigating Aging with Dubious Advice by an Island Crone
Normally I don’t give getting old a second thought. Why should I? I am a healthy 85-year-old, active, and still interested in what’s going on in my community.
I feel I can do every thing I once did. Until this happened.
It was a beautiful blue-sky day on January 1, 2024 when I walked down to the ferry dock to watch the annual polar bear swim. I didn’t see anyone I knew. Covid had done that for me. I had stopped going to public events.
But then I recognized a voice in the crowd, a young couple whose daughter was doing the swim.
“Here,” he said, “you can watch with us.”
He held out his hand as I stepped over the foot high divider between the vehicle and the pedestrian path on the ferry dock.
When the swim was over and I turned to leave they were already walking away. I looked at the wooden beam that was the barricade between me and my way home and I knew if I tried to step over it without support, I would fall. The air around me was shimmering, it was either the sunlight dancing on the water or something else that made me feel dizzy, whatever, I knew I needed help.
I hate asking for help.
I called out to the wife who was on her phone walking away. Of course, she rushed back and gave me her arm to grip as I stepped over, teetered a bit, then centered myself. She gave me a hug and was on her way.
Dubious advice #1: Don’t be too proud to ask for help.
It was a long walk home.
“How was the polar bear swim?” Grant asked.
As I told him what happened I started to weep. “I hate feeling old,” I blurted between sobs. “I feel vulnerable and useless and as though I’ve aged a decade.”
“Well, you are getting old Lizzie,” Grant said gently, “and its just part of letting go.”
“No!” I refused to listen to him. “I know I am old but I can still do something to slow the decrepitude. Walk with my Nordic poles. Do my balance exercises. And write in my journal to ease the angst.”
I have more dubious pieces of advice on how I am navigating aging to share with you. Next blog post, my friends.
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~ Island Crone by Liz Maxwell Forbes